Wednesday, September 10

BULLIED BUT BLESSED


Last night after Church I was talking to a Family,Ive known them for several years.Their oldest son is 17 now and recently he dropped a lot of weight and transformed his body to become healthy and very fit.We were talking and I told him" I seen your ice bucket challange for ALS on facebook,and noticed  at the end of your video you said "Take that all who bullied me and called me chubby"I had no clue he ever had any troubles,After every Church  service this young man would come up to me with a smile give me a hug and say "Hello Brother John"He is always respectful and I could tell he has a heart after God.

                            He began to share with me he said" Bro John I was bullied so bad at school and here at our Church and one of the boys is a Ministers' son."Not realizing the seriousness of what he went through.I said "Oh you know what they say,"Ministers kids' are the worse" He was trying to hold back tears,his parents were near by talking with friends"Brother John it went on for years it got so bad I considered suicide" and with that the tears fell down his cheeks.I thought to myself as I stood there keeping my composure,my Lord he was tramatized.I told him "I had no clue you were going through anything.You have my number you call or tex me day or night.He went on to say " now it takes me so long to get ready for the day, I second guess everything I wear and cant see how I look .Now I still see a fat kid that was picked on.I told him I never seen you as a fat you are a good kid and Im praying for full restoration and peace of mind. He gave me a hug and I told the family I would give them a call later and to have a good night and I headed home.What he shared with me got me to thinking back,When I was in 6 grade my Dad hasd passed a way and my Mom was supporting five kids on her own.So I didnt have expensive name brand clothes and I was tall and very thin just ackward, no Dad to teach me Sports.I remember one day a group of kids on the first day of school said "Is that Johnny?"I thought they were happy to see me back at school after losing my Dad but then one kid said "Oh ya its him he's wearing the same shoes he had on last year,and they all. Started laughing, as time when on it got worse.I had a knife held to me by an 8th grader  taking my lunch money and in High school I was the last to be picked in baseball,It got so bad I would pray "God please let me go deaf so I dont have to hear them anymore" 

                 But now as an Adult I am Blessed.God has given me great friends and all the things I dreampt about doing like photography,writing and working with Children &Youth and the elderly I am doing now, I am now Superintendant of Sunday School and God has restored my self esteem.I dont care what you look like, what you wear, how rich or how poor you are I make it a point to say hello and ask How are you? We never know what someone is going through.
I know this entry is long and very serious but in todays world with Social Media its alot harder on kids .So let us unite in prayer
John

3 comments:

  1. Bullying has a tremendous effect on a child. To talk about it and come to terms with it is vital in order to get rid of the 'luggage' and become who you are, should be...

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  2. I was bullied mercilessly on account of health issues during my elementary school days, and I took my turn as a bully when the opportunities presented themselves later on. Be assured that there is much about my past that I am deeply ashamed of.

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